In Romans 8:26 in the New Testament we’re told,
“Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities; for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groaning which cannot be uttered.”
In other words, with the help of the Holy Ghost, our needs will be made known, even though our words may be inadequate. And from modern-day revelation in the Doctrine and Covenants 46:30: “He that asketh in the Spirit asketh according to the will of God…”
Our Bible dictionary can help us to understand the true nature of prayer. It says,
“Prayer is the act by which the will of the Father and the will of the child are brought into correspondence with each other. The object of prayer is not to change the will of God, but to secure for ourselves and for others blessings that God is already willing to grant, but that are made conditional on our asking for them.”Almost a year ago our family (and so many of you) flooded the heavens with our pleadings to Heavenly Father on behalf of our son Neil. As he lay in a coma, struggling between death and an uncertain life, we asked for a miracle. But honestly, I found I couldn’t say to our Father, “just fix it--make it all go away.” This was certainly what I wanted, what I ached for. But my actual prayers sounded different. I felt compelled to tell my Father in Heaven that I didn’t want Neil to suffer, that I wanted him back just as he was, but that I trusted Him to do what was best for Neil…for all of us…whatever that was. As difficult as it was, I knew that I had to say, “not my will, but thine be done.” I felt the Spirit guiding my thoughts, my words, my prayers. I was moved to ask for ministering angels to attend him. Through the immense pain, I felt comfort and peace in knowing that God was in charge—that a loving heavenly parent would give us the gift that we really needed.
As Neil struggles now to regain skills and abilities, and works to find his path and direction in life, I’ve seen his faith grow. As he continues to heal, I’ve seen a strength and determination in him that I don’t think was there before. His positive attitude and outlook has touched many lives. Our family has grown closer. We have felt the love and support of so many, many friends, strangers, family, and loved ones. We have all been changed for the better because of this experience. Would I ever have asked for Neil’s accident to happen? Certainly not knowingly, but when I prayed in faith for my son to know God and to understand the power of Christ’s atonement--His ultimate gift to us, maybe that is just what I did. I do not think that God caused the accident, but I’ve seen his hand in all the good that has transpired since. That has been a sweet and precious gift.
Our prayers are being answered daily—yours and mine. If we can be in tune with the Holy Spirit, I believe that each of us will find that our “wish list” is exactly what the Lord has in mind to grant us. And we’ll be getting just what we want for Christmas this year.